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50 WAYSTHE BOOK & THE PROJECT

A BOOK BY ARIANNA JAMES

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words for this.

A book about recognizing abuse
and finding your own way forward.

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WHAT IS 50WAYS: THEPROJECT?

Getting the book to the people who need it.

50Ways:TheProject combines: TheBook for people living with abuse, TheSubstack to raise funds and impact the culture through engagement and awareness, and speaking, targeted ads, and promotions to spread awareness throughout communities year-round, not just in October.

01

TheBook

For those who are suffering but may not know what’s happening yet. Ari’s story, how to identify abuse, and how to leave safely.

About the book
02

TheSubstack

For friends, family and allies. Year-round writing that helps outsiders understand abuse, and helps fund the project.

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03

Speaking & promotion

Talks, interviews and partnerships that put the book in the hands of the people who need it most.

Book Ari to speak

I’m glad
you’re here.

Illustrative photograph of three women sharing a thoughtful conversation at a kitchen table ILLUSTRATIVE SCENE · NOT AN AUTHOR PHOTO

THE AUTHOR

Meet Arianna James.

Author. Singer. Survivor.

Arianna “Ari” James is a singer, a survivor of domestic abuse, and the author of Fifty Ways to Leave Your Lover. She writes and appears using a pseudonym to protect herself and her family from threats made by her former abuser and his family members.

The book shares pieces of her own story to bring readers into the tormented mind of someone suffering under controlling abuse, so they might become aware of how she got there, why she stayed, and what choices she didn’t have that outsiders take for granted.

Her Substack invites friends and allies to support the educational project and engages readers with weekly articles on awareness of how they can positively impact the culture around them.

More about Ari
Ari’s handwritten signatureARIANNA JAMES
AUTHOR, FIFTY WAYS
Back cover: a white door opens from a gray room onto a bright beach, with footprints in the sand. Front cover of Fifty Ways to Leave Your Lover by Arianna James: a girl in a blue dress spray-paints a doorway on a concrete wall. FRONT & BACK COVER · ARIANNA JAMES

50WAYS: THEBOOK

Fifty Ways to
Leave Your Lover.

For people questioning what’s happening in their relationship. Three parts, from personal experience to practical steps:

  1. 01

    The story

    Inside Ari’s mind as the dam begins to break.

  2. 02

    The recognition

    How to identify abuse and coercive control.

  3. 03

    The way out

    How to leave safely, when it’s most dangerous.

About the book Meet the author

LISTEN

“50 Ways to Leave
Your Lover”

As recorded by Arianna James.

Ari is a working session singer. Her recording of the Paul Simon song is the soundtrack to this project.

50 Ways to Leave Your Lover

Arianna James

The song will play here soon.

Illustrative photograph of two women listening and talking at a kitchen table

50WAYS: THESUBSTACK

Help the conversation
reach further.

The book is for people living with abuse. Ari’s Substack is for everyone around them: friends, family, coworkers, and men who want to be part of the change.

Like, share and subscribe to support domestic violence awareness all year, not only in October.

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LGBTQ+ YOUNG PEOPLE

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