50WAYS: THEBOOK
Fifty Ways to
Leave Your Lover
For those who are suffering but may not know yet what’s happening.
Abuse rarely announces itself. It shows up in pieces, and each piece is easy to explain away. Ari wrote this book for the person she used to be: someone living inside it, without words for it yet.
Tap the book to turn it over.
INSIDE THE BOOK
Three parts.
- PART I
My story
Ari’s own story, told as the dam begins to break and pieces of reality come into view one at a time.
- PART II
How to identify abuse
Clear language for abuse and coercive control, so you can name what’s happening and trust what you see.
- PART III
How to leave safely
How to plan an exit that works, especially in the most dangerous time: when a controlling partner starts to realize you’re leaving.
Each chapter name is a pop song that was instrumental to her journey.
WHO IT’S FOR
You might be
the reader if…
- You keep wondering whether you’re overreacting.
- You plan your words around someone else’s mood.
- You feel like you’ve lost track of who you used to be.
- You’ve thought about leaving but don’t know how to do it safely.
WORRIED ABOUT SOMEONE ELSE?
Start with TheSubstack.
Ari’s Substack is written for friends, family and allies: what abuse looks like from the outside, and how to support someone without pushing them away.
UNSURE? YOU CAN STILL TALK.
Someone is there, 24/7.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline: call 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788.